Binara Handata wedi Kaluwara - Sinhala Song now on You Tube

Binara Handata wedi Kaluwara
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This song is from Chamara Weerasinghe, one of the greatest singers in Sri Lanka. I've heard this a long time ago, but I thought this will be vanished with the time If there isn't a visual for this wonderful song. Then using Hindi movie of Lagaan, I've created a simple visual to listen the song and to keep this song alive.
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Chamara Weerasinghe, is from Matara and I'm also from Matara, upto now we don't know each other but live in only around 2-3 miles away.
I hope, If Mr. Chamara has seen this video may be comment here or You Tube.

Congrat. Mr Mahinda, Happy Future and සුභ අනාගතයක්!

Our President,
Mahinda Rajapaksha has won the Presidential Election 2010 in Sri Lanka after the victory over the world's deadliest terrorist organization LTTE in May 2009. The most pure election ever in Sri Lanka , Mr. Mahinda has got more than 18 00 000 votes all over the country.We wish our hero of the era, Mr. Mahinda Rajapaksha, have a wonderful and happy future ahead and May all his dreams come true in his way.
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Mr. General Sarath Fonseka, the 2nd place of the election , told the press he'll not think this election as pure one as every looser , who always not accepts after the loss victory as children. He was one time one of the war hero in Sri Lanka, faced loss after he Betrayed motherland twice to win the election but not happened. He was very greedy to grab the power with the election and almost he forgot the country and helped the JVP , who one time destroyed the country and government institutions and killing more than 50 000 people , most of the are innocent. Most people hate JVP and not voting for them other than uneducated poor people in rural *************************************************

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The main reason for the loss of both JVP and UNP, the main opposition party , was they were throwing mud for Mahinda Rajapaksha, who is the real hero of 30 years long war, and his brothers and his relatives. But not talking what they do and going to do to make Sri Lanka better place in the future. They didn't have a plan, that people knew. They only wanted the power and people didn't give.

But the most fun seen was, every person we met told he was going to vote Mahinda, not for power hungry opposition.But in Facebook and in the net , "The Facebook President" was Sarath fonseka. Not in the real world. Then he must have seen a dream to be a President and after he used every single way to do that and finally, planed for the conspiracy to grab the presidency by force, but it was revealed, now investigations are going on.

Sarath Fonseka was a very good person up to the election time. He was changed by the vicious mind people like Somawansa amarasinghe ( A killer of one time), and JVP and power hungry UNP'ers. Finally he betrayed the Army itself and made a treaty with defeated LTTE to get Tamil votes.
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Still we have more elections and If still the opposition are going to sling mud, the only thing they'll get is defeat. What they do is to have a real plan to defeat the image of the government which is the most popular government ever with defeating LTTE.

Here are some photos from Facebook, after the defeat of Facebook president.

Rumours, Lies and damn Lies after the Election

Rumours, Lies and damn Lies

The date was 27th January 6.00 pm, the venue was Torrington Square (Independence Square). After a brisk walk for about one hour I started to relax with my usual friends at our meeting place. As I sat one lady said "It’s a real disaster" .I asked why. She said the results have been all manipulated by using computers. I asked by whom? Promptly came the reply; ‘by Basil’. I laughed and told her that it cannot be as there were counting agents appointed by all parties at every Counting Centre and also there were International Observers as well as local Observers; and counting is done in their presence and they are fully briefed on the votes received by each candidate. In addition, even at polling booths there were polling agents and also the Observers. They were allowed to accompany the ballot boxes to the Counting Centres so that there cannot be switching of ballot boxes. She wouldn’t accept. I then asked her as to who told her about it. "That’s what they say" was her prompt reply. I just laughed.

Then another one said that Commissioner Dayananda Dissanayake had been held as a hostage till 5.30 pm. I asked for what purpose; "Well, to manipulate the results’ One said he was locked up at the Election Commissioner’s office. Another said No, No, It was at Waters Edge. Another said No, No it was at the Election Commissioner’s office. I told them that "You yourselves are contradicting each other, so how can any one believe these rumours"; they just laughed at me. I also told them that when Dayananda announced the results he was quite critical of state media and that he could have easily mentioned about this alleged abduction. They promptly said, ‘They would have shot him then and there’. I told them that I hope the Government should very soon ban the evil SMS system.

There was W.R.H, Perera, former Conservator of Forests and later Chairman of Timber Corporation, who was also an Advisor to various UN Organizations even long after retirement. He was one of the most respected public officers at that time. He was 200% honest and straight. He stood up to even his own Ministers when it came to injustice and wrong. To him, forest was his life and limb. He was seated next to me. Then he came out with an interesting story. In 1952, after election duty at Buttala electorate, he was resting at Moneragala Rest House with his wife. One candidate who contested was Mr. (later Sir) Leo Fernando from Panadura. Some of his friends and relations, of course the elite group, were at the next table discussing the elections. Perera had invited them to tea as he knew some of them. They joined him and his wife. One of these so called gentlemen told him "You know, they (Opposite side) have bribed the Presiding Officer with Rs. 10,000/- and the Assistant Presiding Officer with 5,000/-, Perera asked them who had told them this story. The answer was "Well they say". Perera had said, ‘Well I was the Presiding Officer and my wife was the Assistant Presiding Officer’. They had no place to hide their faces.

After this story, my friends seated around did not open their mouths. Well, these are the evils of rumours and lies. One can understand Somawansa and the JVP spreading all these as it is consistent with their policy. In addition, they are experts on slinging Mud. This time they resorted to the low level of calling people ‘pigs with excreta and pigs eating excreta’. Of course, having lost badly they may be now giving effect to it in style. Somawansa et al are responsible for the killing of 60,000 Sinhala youth in 1988/89. They destroyed public property worth billions. Murder, destruction and treachery is the order of the day for them. Apart from these JVPers, the strange thing is that the ‘Colombians’ are resorting to this type of rumours and lies without using their brains, if they have any. I cannot but agree with Dr. Gunadasa Amarasekera when he said, at S.L. Gunasekera’s book launch that "It is the Sinhala vote that matters and not that of the English-speaking pariah who is fondly awaiting Sarath Fonseka to bring back the good old days."

The so-called joint Opposition and their common candidate will never recover from the shock. It’s the post election trauma that drives them to tell fairytale stories.

Sometimes life is dull without these jokers.

Douglas Premaratne
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Fixes for 3 common sleep problems

Sleep Routine Makeovers

Read expert advice for three common sleeping issues

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By Barbara Brody

Tired? You're not alone. About 20 percent of Americans get fewer than six hours of shut-eye nightly, and a growing number have to rely on sleep aids to fall asleep or stay that way, according to the National Sleep Foundation. Is getting more (and better) sleep possible without the help of drugs? To find out, we asked three Woman's Day staffers to share their nighttime troubles with the experts. Here's what they learned.

Problem #1: "I wake up in the middle of the night and can't fall back to sleep." -Marilu Lopez, group creative director

Marilu wakes up almost every night between 3:30 and 4 a.m. and is unable to fall back to sleep. To pass the time and try to make herself sleepy again, she reads The New York Times on her BlackBerry. She eventually falls back to sleep but then wakes up early in the morning and feels exhausted all day.

Advice: Step one is to break the BlackBerry habit, says Joyce Walsleben, RN, PhD, diplomate of the American Board of Sleep Medicine and coauthor of A Woman's Guide to Sleep. The problem is twofold: Not only is reading news articles too stimulating, but the light from the BlackBerry itself can get in the way of the production of hormones that are essential for sleep.

Dr. Walsleben's top tips:

1. Ban the BlackBerry from the bedroom. Also cover (or remove) clocks so that you're not disturbed by the light from them or tempted to stare at the numbers.
2. Stay in bed. If you wake up, keep your eyes closed and practice relaxation exercises that will hopefully lull you back to sleep. One to try: Picture yourself outdoors on a beautiful day with a jar of soap and a wand. Imagine that you're slowly blowing bubbles, and follow each one until it's out of sight. Keep blowing bubbles until there's no more soap in the jar.
3. Relax during the day, too. Take at least three minutes to practice the bubble exercise (or another relaxation technique, such as deep breathing) so that you're not overwhelmed by the worries of the day as soon as your head hits the pillow.

Did it work? "The bubble imagery didn't work for me--I found the concept more annoying than relaxing," says Marilu. "But I have fallen back to sleep a few times by just staying in bed and telling myself, ‘Do not open your eyes. Do not turn on the BlackBerry.'"

Problem #2: "I only get four to five hours of sleep a night." -Abigail L. Cuffey, assistant health editor

Abby's friends call her a vampire because she's such a night owl. She tends to get a second wind around 11:30 p.m. and ends up staying awake until at least 2 a.m. But she also wakes up early in the morning, so the bottom line is she's not getting very much rest. She relies on lots of caffeine to keep her going through the day. On the weekends Abby stays up even later but sleeps in later as well.

Advice: Too much caffeine and inconsistencies between Abby's workweek and weekend sleep schedules are preventing her from getting enough rest, says Michael J. Breus, PhD, a clinical psychologist and board-certified sleep specialist. If she's serious about improving her sleep habits, she needs to ease off the caffeine and stick to a regular schedule.

Dr. Breus' top tips:

1. Start "caffeine fading." There's no need to abandon coffee entirely--plus, going cold turkey can cause bad headaches. A better idea is to drink most of your caffeinated beverages early in the morning and taper off as the day goes on. If you're currently used to five or six cups of coffee a day, try having one or two cups of drip coffee in the morning, a latte (which has a higher milk-to-coffee ratio) or half-caf coffee midday, and a tea or cola in the afternoon if you're still craving caffeine. But after 4 p.m., no more caffeine!
2. Set your alarm clock or cell phone to go off 30 minutes before bedtime as a reminder to stop what you're doing and get ready for bed.
3. Take a hot bath or shower right before bed. This should make you sleepy because your temperature will rise and then dip--and body temperature naturally drops when you get sleepy.
4. Go to bed and wake up at approximately the same time on weekdays and weekends. (A shift of about an hour is OK.)

Did it work? "The advice was good but hard to stick to because life--the holidays, my birthday, etc.--got in the way," says Abby. "But when I did follow it, it worked really well, especially the hot shower at night. Whenever I took one I felt almost tranquilized once I crawled into bed."

Problem #3: "I have night sweats--but I'm only in my 20s!" -Ayn-Monique Klahre, associate home design editor

During the workweek, Ayn-Monique usually goes to bed around 10:30 p.m., but her husband often reads in the bedroom, so the light disturbs her about 30 minutes later. Once she's awakened, she tosses and turns but eventually falls back to sleep--only to be awakened around 3:30 a.m. feeling cold but scrunched into a little ball and sweating. She's exhausted when her alarm goes off in the morning and often hits the snooze button repeatedly. On the weekends she tends to stay out much later and sleeps soundly once she's finally in bed.

Advice: A medical issue could be responsible for Ayn-Monique's sleep troubles, but Dr. Walsleben suspects that her sleep cycle is simply out of whack because she goes to bed so much later on the weekends than she does during the week and because she's going to bed during the week while her husband is still reading.

Dr. Walsleben's top tips:

1. Normalize your weekday and weekend sleep routines as much as possible. That might mean going to bed slightly later during the week than you are now, as well as turning in a bit earlier on Friday and Saturday. The goal is to bridge the gap.
2. Embrace the darkness. Even if you fall asleep with the light on, it probably won't be quality sleep--and it's all too easy to be woken up. If your husband insists on reading in the bedroom after your bedtime, ask him to use a book light or wear an eye mask yourself.
3. Talk to your doctor. If you practice these lifestyle changes for a few weeks and you're not sleeping any better--and still waking up sweating--see your primary care doctor to make sure an unknown medical problem isn't to blame.

Did it work? "Staying up a little later during the week helped me sleep more soundly, and I've used an eye mask when my husband is reading in bed," says Ayn-Monique. "But I still woke up sweaty on occasion, so I'm not sure this issue has been fully addressed. I'll mention it to my doctor at my next physical just to make sure nothing else is going on."

Is the creator theory a possibility?

Is the creator theory a possibility?

It appears that some people are hell bent on believing in a ‘Creator’ theory. However, look at the improbabilities that weigh against such a belief. America is truly a great and beautiful country. Yet, when terrorists attacked on September 11th so many innocent people perished. America has also been devastated by many hurricanes, thus the question of a loving God is being questioned by many. Some believe that Satan is responsible for all the mayhem and calamities that take place in the world (earth quakes, tornadoes, mud slides, earth slips, volcanoes, and floods to name a few). It is also believed that Satan was an angel created by God who later fell from grace and is responsible for all the mayhem. Then the paramount question arises as to why the God couldn't give the angel who fell from grace a non abusive free will? And for that matter after the angel abused and became the devil, why did the all powerful God sacrifice his only son? I understand there are numerous theological explanations and interpretations to it. The political West call certain countries Satanic or Evil, while those countries in return call the west satan. Who is right and who is wrong? As for the free will supposed to have been given by the so called Omnipotent God, it is remarkable that Adolf Hitler was also given a free will to slaughter 30-35 million innocent human beings.One is also faced with the million dollar question why God created serpents to sting and kill humans? viruses to kill thousands of humans, germs to cause illnesses, mosquitoes to suck human blood! According to the Bible, God created man in his own form. Darwinian scientists say that man evolved from a common ancestor -common to the apes and us, humans. The Tsunami which devastated Sri Lanka along with several of its neighbours, took away the lives of thousands of innocent people. As a result, many families were torn apart. If one is to visit the Cancer hospital at Maharagama, there are little babies just a few months old suffering from cancer. So is it not that the so called Almighty, Omnipotent all loving Creator God has neglected his subjects on earth in the process? -A Mirror Reader

2010 – Chinese Year of the Tiger!

2010 – Chinese Year of the Tiger!

The Chinese use the lunar calendar for celebratory events which includes the New Year. This falls somewhere between late January and early February. The cycle of twelve animal signs originates from Chinese tradition as a way of naming the years. The animals follow one another in an established order and are replicated every twelve years. The rat, ox, tiger, rabbit, dragon, snake, horse, sheep, monkey, rooster, dog and pig are the twelve animal signs. Every animal has particular characteristics and people born in a specific year are believed to take on these characteristics. According to the Chinese Zodiac, the year of 2010 is the year of the Tiger, which commences on February 14, 2010 and ends on February 2, 2011. The Tiger is the third sign in the Chinese Zodiac cycle, and it is a sign of bravery. This courageous and fiery fighter is admired by the ancient Chinese as the sign that keeps away the three main tragedies of a household. These are fire, thieves and ghosts. Tigers are physically powerful, gracious, independent and brave, they are extremely bold animals. They are friendly and loving but can also selfish and short-tempered. Tigers seek attention and power; frequently they are envious in a relation. Tigers live dangerously which often leads to trouble. They are intolerant, take risks and are always searching for excitement. Tigers are also instilled with a good dose of courage. The Tiger has an overpowering attraction and is very kind and always takes on the character as a protector. The Tiger flourishes by power and attention and takes advantage of all circumstances it gets itself into. The tiger is a natural leader and loves to be the centre of attention. As a rebel it goes up against authority and speaks out about wrongs in society, and willingly puts up objections. Even if you don’t agree with the beliefs of the tiger you admire his way to protest. Just as how their counterparts in the jungle are impulsive, so too are individuals born in the Chinese Year of the Tiger. When people think of tigers, it is their vigour and power that comes to mind first. But it has also been noted that tigers are known to share and are unselfish animals. The reason people admire the tiger is due to the fact that they are ferocious and domineering on the outside, but they are just as noble and distinguished on the inside. These are the same personality attributes that persons will have who are born in the year of the Tiger. People that are born in the Year of the Tiger are generally well liked because of their charismatic personalities. Often, failing at a given duty or being unproductive in his personal or professional life can cause a Tiger to experience a deep sense of depression. A Tiger is always at their happiest when they endeavour to climb the ladder of success. Attaining the top spot is his foremost purpose; being in a position of power is her ultimate goal. They are quick learners, need to be challenged and often prefer to work alone. Some Tigers tend to change careers more frequently because they get bored quite easily. They are natural born leaders and perform at their best if working towards positions of power and influence. So once there is no further room for progression, they will often move on to something else. Anyone that is born in the Year of the Tiger is usually straightforward and outgoing by nature. They will never give up no matter how aggravated they may become. But, they are also full of suspicion and at times will take hasty action. Never lose sight of the fact that Tigers are smart and instinctive. People born in the Year of the Tiger always take pride in being different from others, and normally demonstrate their originality best in their homes. Their homes are typically filled with exotic possessions. It is no surprise that one of the Tiger’s favourite gemstones is the cat’s eye, but tigers also love the sparkle of rubies and diamonds. They like to spend money, and also to share it. They can be very impulsive spenders because they know they can at all times make more. The Year of the Tiger is the third year in the cycle of “Heavenly Branches”. Customarily, it is called “Yin”. Those born in the Year of the Tiger are compatible with the horse, dog, and dragons. The year 2010 is another Year of the Tiger. It is the ji-chou year. Jji is the sixth of the Ten Celestial Stems and yin is the third of the Twelve Terrestrial Branches and marks the Year of the Tiger. www.yearofthetiger.net)

Understanding the Chinese zodiac

Most people’s understanding of Chinese astrology and the Chinese zodiac doesn’t extend beyond what they see on the paper placemats that cover the tables of their favourite Chinese restaurants. But there really is much more to know about this doctrine that dates back more than 2,000 years. There are 12 animals in the zodiac: Rat, Ox, Tiger, Rabbit, Dragon, Snake, Horse, Goat, Monkey, Rooster, Dog and Pig. These 12 animals represent the rotating 12-year cycle that is the basis of the Chinese Zodiac. It also reflects several similarities to the Western zodiac: Both have time cycles divided into 12 parts, each labels, at least the majority of those parts, with names of animals, and each is widely associated with a culture of attributing influence of a person’s relationship to the cycle upon their personality and/or events in their life. Nevertheless, there are major differences: The Chinese 12-part cycle is divided into years rather than months; contrary to the association with animals implied in the Greek etymology of zodiac, actually four of the Western signs or houses are represented by humans (one such sign being the twins Gemini) and one is the inanimate balance scale Libra; the animals of the Chinese zodiac are not associated with constellations, let alone those spanned by the ecliptic plane. There are many legends to explain the beginning of the zodiac. One of the most popular reads, in summarised form, as follows: The rat was given the task of inviting the animals to report to the Jade Emperor for a banquet to be selected for the zodiac signs. The cat was a good friend of the rat, but the rat tricked him into believing that the banquet was the next day. The cat slept through the banquet, thinking that it was the next day. When he found out, the cat vowed to be the rat’s natural enemy for ages to come. A variation tells that the cat had asked the rat to wake him up the day of the Race. The rat agreed, but on the said day, he did not wake the cat in his greed to win. When the cat finally woke up and got to the racing ground, he found the race to be over. The cat then swore revenge upon the rat. Interestingly, the cat does make it into the Vietnamese Zodiac, in place of the rabbit.

Why Mahinda Rajapaksha must win without Lt. Gen. Sarath Fonseka ?

President of Sri Lanka , Mahinda Rajapaksha
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The suspected Tiger female suicide bomber who carried out the attack on the Army Commander Lt. Gen. Sarath Fonseka has been identified as Anoja Kugenthiratasah.

Colombo, 27 April, (Asiantribune.com): The female suicide bomber who carried out the bomb attack on the Sri Lanka Army Commander on Tuesday 25 April, has been identified as a Tamil women from Vavuniya.
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the next presidential elections comes. what is people are expecting ? SF or MR ?
means Sarath Fonseka or Mahinda Rajapaksha. Both 2 sides are in a cold war regarding who is the Real Hero of the war in Sri Lanka. How can judge this ? specially UNP, the United National Party ? That was the main party in Sri Lanka who opposed in every way to stop the war and speaking about never ever can win a war or defeat Prabhakaran . They always opposed the way this government has done the way of war. always told its fake and made many speeches how Mahinda and Prabhakaran made a treaty and going to sell the country etc. In few weeks the war has been won by the government of Mahinda , there Sarath Fonseka was the Chief .

The problem was, in last 40 years Sarath was in the duty. Never won the 30 year old war. In few years after Mahinda's presidency it won in 4 years time. Who is the real hero ? you must decide . How Sarath is in power hungry these days ? others made him mind to that point. Now he himself believe as the real No. 1 hero is he. There are 3 army forces there. How we can tell Sarath is the one. Can say , only if anyone is insane . The power hungry UNP and the most destruction party in Sri Lanka JVP now in same platform to get the power making false arguments. Lalkantha, The JVP's cow (olamotalaya) is making many unbelievable arguments to see himself happy. One time in Sri Lanka the all of the had power including minister-ships. Only they know to shout. When they got the said power They didn't know how to do the minister ships.Making false arguments they left their memberships from the government. Because their lack of efficiency in the office.

Do you think Sarath Fonsake must take the presidency ? No , never. But we love him . Others like some opposite politicians have made his mind pollute these days. everyone like the power. Nothing except Sarath Fonseka. He assumes he will win. But never. The only votes he will receive are the votes of UNP, as always less than 50%
of the given votes.

The Only Problem witnSarath is, he doesn't know how to control a country even near to me, except Army. The control of army forces is very much easier than control people. Why ? The forces never question the leader. It's their duty. But people ? they always criticize the ruling party and the president. Do you thing an army chief like Sarath will hear their voice ? These days he will tell "He Can ". But with power he surely changes and will make his own decisions whether people like it or not. He will throw away UNP and JVP too as he left Mahinda and Gotabhaya, who made the way for Sarath to be the chief of Army.

Continue.........

Mininova.org to where ? What happened to Mininova ?

Mininova limits its activities to Content Distribution service

Published on November 26, 2009 in Mininova-related news.

Hi all,

Today is an important day in the history of Mininova. From now on, we are limiting Mininova.org to our Content Distribution service. By doing so, we comply with the ruling of the Court of Utrecht of last August.

Unfortunately the court ruling leaves us no other option than to take our platform offline, except for the Content Distribution service. According to the verdict (Dutch link) we have to prevent uploads of torrents to Mininova that refer to certain titles or to similar-looking titles. We’ve been testing some filtering systems the last couple of months, but we found that it’s neither technically nor operationally possible to implement a 100% working filter system. Therefore, we decided that the only option is to limit Mininova to Content Distribution torrents from now on. We are still considering an appeal at this moment.

We launched our Content Distribution service in 2007. This service allows producers and artists to easily publish and distribute their content for free through Mininova. The launch of Content Distribution has proven to be a success. Countless content owners have used Content Distribution to distribute their content (e.g. albums and documentaries) for free to millions of users. For example, the Dutch band Silence is Sexy released their complete album on Mininova and received the Interactive Award 2009 for doing so. The Dutch television broadcaster VPRO decided to start using Content Distribution in 2009 in order to distribute documentaries.

We would like to thank you for your support. Especially everyone that contributed to Mininova receives a big “thank you!” for the effort! We hope to keep welcoming you on Mininova and our other projects (e.g. Snotr, Dispostable).

Thanks! The Mininova staff

Boyzone - No More , Stephen Gately is dead with sad news to all

Pop world mourns Boyzone's Gately

Boyzone, with Gately centre, reformed in 2007 after eight years apart

The remaining members of Boyzone arrived in Majorca on Sunday

Friends, fans and stars have paid tribute to Boyzone singer Stephen Gately, who has died suddenly at the age of 33 while on holiday in Majorca.

Gately's bandmates described him as "our friend and brother" and said that he "lit up our lives".

Boyzone manager Louis Walsh pulled out of Sunday's X Factor show, where judge Simon Cowell paid tribute to Gately.

A spokesman for Gately's family attributed his death to natural causes and ruled out drugs and suicide.

Gately was on holiday with his long-term partner Andy Cowles, who was introduced to him by Sir Elton John and his partner David Furnish, and married in a civil partnership in 2006.

Gately's boy band enjoyed huge success in the 1990s, scoring six UK number one singles.

They reformed in 2007 before embarking on a string of comeback concerts and were planning to release a new album next year.

BOYZONE UK NUMBER ONE HITS Words - October 1996 A Different Beat - December 1996 All That I Need - May 1998 No Matter What - August 1998 When The Going Gets Tough - March 1999 You Needed Me - May 1999 In pictures: Life and career In quotes: Stars pay tribute

A statement from the four remaining members of Boyzone said: "We have shared such wonderful times together over the years and were all looking forward to sharing many more.

"Stephen was a beautiful person in both body and spirit. Our love and sympathy go out to Andrew and Stephen's family. We love you and will miss you forever."

Singer Ronan Keating was in Chicago when the news of Gately's death emerged and has travelled to join the rest of the group, who flew out to Majorca on Sunday evening, where they spent more than a hour visiting Mr Cowles at Gately's apartment.

Irish solicitor Gerald Kean, a spokesman for Gately's family, said: "There's no foul play involved and it's not suicide.

"It's just a tragic accident is what we've been told and we're happy that that is correct information.

"There is nothing untoward, it's not drugs, we don't believe, it's not suicide, it's not murder, it's not a fight. That's what we've been told."

The family hope to have the remains returned to Ireland by the end of the week for the funeral in Dublin, he added.

A post mortem will take place in Spain on Tuesday.

Police said they were called to a house near Port d'Andratx on the western tip of the island on Saturday afternoon.

"At the moment it is not known how he died," a police spokesman said. "There are no signs of suspicious circumstances."

Sir Elton said on Sunday he and Furnish were "stunned by this tragedy".

"Stephen was the kindest, gentlest soul," he said. "We send our love and condolences to his partner Andy and to all his friends everywhere."

Gately died in his apartment complex in Port Andratx, Majorca

Former Irish Taoiseach Bertie Ahern, a friend of Gately, said the singer and his group had been "part of Irish life, and far wider than that" for 15 years. "It's a huge, huge tragedy. It's so sad," he said.

Louis Walsh's spokeswoman confirmed that the manager would not go ahead with his appearance as an X Factor judge on Sunday's live results show.

His spokeswoman said: "He thanks you all for the messages of support at this sad time."

Walsh earlier told the News of the World newspaper that he was "in complete shock".

Fellow X Factor judge Simon Cowell paid tribute to Gately, saying his death was "really, really, tragic" and sent his condolences to the star's family, but added: "The show must go on."

Fellow Irish boy band Westlife, also managed by Walsh, put out a statement describing Gately as a "friendly, positive spirit and a passionate performer".

SAVE THE CHILDREN FROM SUICIDE

SAVE THE CHILDREN FROM SUICIDE

By Shalika Ranaweera

The future of this country are the school children and their well being is very important to the society. Some incidents taking place in the schools already shows a bad signal and our school children are not really in a position to handle some of the problems on their own.

It is a pathetic situation that the students see the best option available as committing suicide for small issues.

To get the opinion regarding this situation the Daily Mirror contacted some professionals in the field of education yesterday.

Pix by Pradeep Dilrukshana

Dhanapala Wijesinghe, Senior Lecturer, Department of Sociology, University of Sri Jayawardanepura

The socialization of children is the main reason for this problem. Socialization is the way how we train a child to behave in an accepted manner in society and direct them to a good life style.

It is a life long process and through the socialization we develop the personality. Socialization trains the people to integrate with society. Integration is an important fact because it is the pathway to learn how to live in society and adopt the conditions prevailing in society.

There are different levels of integration. If the student’s level of integration is low he or she would not interact properly in society and try to lead a solitary life. They prefer being alone than in a company.

If the level of integration is high they tend to lead highly committed social lives abiding by norms and customs. High levels of integration help them to build their personalities and they are capable of sharing their good and bad. As they have enough people around them they have the chance of sharing all their problems. Even before taking a critical decision like committing suicide they would discuss their problems with friends.

But solitary confined children take unto themselves and develop an egoism. To avoid this type of incidents, parents must develop a strong relationship with their children. Weak integration reflects the weakness prevailing within the family.

Family should be one entity and share everything within the family. Then children develop confidence in their parents and they would divulge all their problems to the parents. Other than this the idea of freedom has been misused in society. Earlier in our traditional society parents had a control over the children and allowed them certain freedom. Society had been able to make an impact on the children’s behaviour as well.

But the Western concept on freedom is controversial to this. Children are given much more freedom and parents think that they should not intervene into children’s problem.

I personally believe that the parents should be more inquisitive and look into what their children are up to. If not, the children would enjoy their freedom in a wrong manner.

It is a fact that the weaker integration with the family and society would persuade them to make their own decisions. Their solitary life would lead to several psychological problems and breaks the psychological equilibrium. That also disturbs the tolerance levels of the students.

When it escalates into higher level, students tend to get various ideas. Some retrieve, some commit suicide, that depends on the level of experience they have received.

To solve these type of problems, the best option is that we as adults should not allow children to become solitary in their lives. Parents must be watchful about their children’s behaviour and should be aware of their associates.

Parents and teachers should observe the children carefully and assist them to solve their problems in an appropriate way. There should not be any secrets in the family and the children would not fear to come up with their problems.

A highly integrated child would never commit suicide because when he/she takes the decision all the relationships, loving and affectionate people in the child’s surrounding would come to their mind. That would definitely avoid those hasty decisions taken by them.

Deputy Principal, Royal College, Colombo

Students took those hasty decisions because they did not have the strength to solve their own problems.

The media is responsible for the repetition of these incidents. They highlight those incidents and figures as if those who committed suicide are heroines. That sets a bad example for those weaker students. Sometimes the TV channels narrate the story while performing suicide. But it is not the proper thing that they should do. Media must correct the wrong in it.

Teachers are there to correct students and they should point out their mistakes.

All students do not have the same capability to bear problems. That might be due to the way they were brought up in the family. Any way the schools are there to leverage those shortcomings.

At the same time parents should be helpful in solving the problems of the children and they must not exert pressure on them. Parents must not try to achieve what they could not through their children.

Through counselling there is a possibility of solving the student’s problem. Parents should develop a friendly environment at home as well.

Ajith Liyanage – Businessman

Now both the students and the parents are busy and they live in their own world. Earlier the situation in our families was different and the parents had enough time to listen to their children. Parents were willing to sacrifice anything for the sake of their children. Now the children live away from their parents and they see each other rarely. So the child has no way of sharing their problems with the parents, thereby the children are isolated in their own world and there is nobody to direct them in the correct path.

Chaminda Dandeniya – A graduate

Now the society is more complicated and the students have more exposure to the world, they have to spend more time out of the family in a tuition class or in a boarding house, thereby the students build up unnecessary relationships that puts them in the wrong path.

Vindya Wickramanayake – Teacher

Students are weak in their thinking and they should develop their advance thinking. They should share their problems with the parents. It is definite that the school supports us in building our personality but the most important fact is family bond between parents and children. If that bond is high children would have courage to solve the problems in a better way.

Roshini Perera – Audit Trainee

Students must develop good relationship with their families. Now the competition is high and students have no time to communicate with their parents. The parents are also busy and they let their children grow in their own way, thereby parents do not know the friends of their children and this leads to many of these problems.

Mayasiri Dias – Driver

These incidents occurred due to the inborn weakness of the students.

They are not in a position to think far and get their own decisions correctly. These types of incidents are common in the city.

In rural areas the family bond is high and children do not take decisions haphazardly.

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